For this assignment, I watched the PBS Frontline documentary,
Growing Up Online. I was struck by the subheading, "Just how fast is the internet transforming the experience of childhood?". I thought it was an interesting question, so I kept it in the back of my mind as I watched the video. I have to say, I felt like the documentary shed light on a lot of the ugly aspects of internet use: lies, cyberbullying, predators, etc. It made me feel like growing up with the internet is a terrible thing. I had to remind myself that the internet was around for most of my teenage years and I turned out just fine. In fact, I found a lot of positive ways to use the internet in high school. I think I have to remember this as a parent and a teacher-- the internet really can be a tool in my students' education. The key is to help them see it as a tool and not as a lifestyle, a tool can be used for both good and for bad.
I believe that students understand the dangers and the importance of keeping themselves safe from strangers and potential predators on the internet. They seem to have a good handle on what is appropriate and what is not. The one major problem I interpreted from the video is that teenagers see the internet as a place for self expression without consequences. As one person in the video put it, "discretion and privacy become a thing of the past." Teenagers believe that the internet is a safe place for them to be completely honest because there is no one there to scold or judge them. The problem is, nothing said on the internet is ever erased-- what they say now as teenagers will be available forever. As a teacher and a parent, I think that's what I'll tell my students more than anything else. Even though they feel like they don't have an audience, they do. And that audience can become a lot bigger or more dangerous than they ever intend.
As a teacher and a parent, I can't control what my kids and students do, even if I take their passwords and monitor them, but I can teach them to use discretion in the things they share online about themselves and others. In the video, they used the example of a boy who committed suicide. His parents explained that they don't blame the computer for what their son did, but they believed it played a part in leading their son to his death. Students need to be aware that the things they say in passing on the internet can have a lasting effect on the lives of others. Just like in their face-to-face interaction, a little kindness can go a long way.
After I watched the video, I talked to my mom about what I learned. I focused my comments on the importance of parents monitoring how much time their children spend on the internet and communicating with their children about what they do while they are online. My mom has pretty strong opinions on internet use. She blocked youtube on our family computer, not because you can find inappropriate videos there (although you can), but because she didn't want her family to waste hours watching videos when we could be doing something better. This may sound extreme, but it is a personal choice that my parents made for my family. She and my dad also keep the family computer in a location of the house where no one is alone for long. My parents trust their children and each other implicitly, but we know that it's better for all of us to
be in public places when we are online. Somehow it keeps us from becoming so focused on the computer that we forget about life.
I also shared with my mom some of the things I learned about cyberbullying. I think the information surprised her. She's always assumed that the biggest dangers for teens on the internet are online predators and pornography. It's hard for my mom to imagine teenagers going to the internet to deal with their problems or to say unkind things about each other. I think she found the information useful, in spite of the fact that it was difficult to hear about some of the hurtful things teenagers do to one another. My mom works with the beehives in our ward-- she told me that more parents of teens ought to learn more about how to keep their kids safe on the internet.